Beat First Night Hookup Jitters With These TipsIt's why you signed up. You're hours away from meeting a local single at a motel. You're going to fuck her. She will probably give you a courtesy blowjob right before she leaves to head home. It's everything you wanted from Free Adult Dating's site.
So then, why the downtrodden mood?
You're about to blow your load in a hot local single multiple times, but you can't get over how down you feel.
Ok, so while this condition doesn't have any medical names, it does exist and it is more pervasive than you might think.
Often, first night hookup jitters get the best of us and make us feel worse than we should. But the good news is, you can beat first night adult hookup jitters by following a few simple steps.
Take a Breath
It may sound simple, but you need to take a breath. Maybe close your eyes and turn on some meditative app. It's all good. Many people get hookup jitters, you aren't alone. The best way to calm your nerves is to take deep breaths and make sure you drink water. It seems silly, but the combination of the two can really help you wrangle in those runaway nerves.
It's super important to try to calm your body down so it can expel those irrational thoughts you are having. You're focus needs to be on the fun ahead. But allowing your mind to remain clouded with nerves won't let you consider what's probably going to be a great night.
Remember, She's Nervous Also
You think you have it bad? She's about to take random dick in her ass, pussy, and probably mouth. You don't think she's feeling the hookup jitters just a little bit? You are not alone no matter how confident her messages may seem. You and her are taking a big step when you decide to meet and fuck. Nerves are a totally normal part of the progressions. When you remember that she too feels the nerves, you'll realize you are both going through the exact same thing.
Visualize comforting her right when you meet up. It will make you feel like a leader, a strong man who wants to make sure she's all good. This will help you forget about your own nerves.
Don't Consider Your Sexual Performance
As all guys know, nerves can have the side-effect of limp dick. It's true. We all know it. But it's important to keep a rational head on your shoulders.
Nerves are normal. But they can compound when you enter in new narratives to fear. The fact is, your nerves likely wash away right when you two first meet up. And when you start to make out and your grinding her with your dick, I doubt highly any semblance of hookup jitters will remain.
One night hookups are like public speaking, its normal to be nervous. But once you are on stage, everything returns back to normal. Don't let your nerves compound.
Invision Role Playing a Conversation
Sometimes, not having a plan is the main reason for nerves. It's the same for hookup jitters. You may feel lost as to what the two of you will talk about right when you meet up to fuck. Yes, the plan is to fuck, but you are both human who will have to have at least a little small talk. So think of a few things you might talk about and rehearse them.
Warning, you don't want to be so rehearsed you sound like a robot. My advice is to think about subjects, rather than exact lines. When you rehearse, approach those subject uniquely each time. Everytime you rehearse, you'll find you gain more and more social confidence.
Don't Booze Up
Alcohol is a social lubricant for many of us. There is nothing wrong with that. But don't get hammered before you meet up. Sure, if you think you can handle having a drink or two before she shows up to the bar or motel, go for it. But don't be so sloshed you sound like an idiot and you can't perform.
Remember, she's been looking forward to you fucking her all day, if not longer. The last thing she wants to show up for is a limp-dicked blacked out bro. Keep it together.
Free Adult Dating's free members often talk about the notorious hookup jitters. No doubt, pre-meet and fuck nerves are a real thing. But if you just take some deep breaths and invision some subjects to talk about, you'll get over things and have the best night of your life. Remember, she's nervous also, so try to comfort her and take the social lead right away.